Dating someone who smokes marijuana
I will never understand how it feels to be high on pot because I will never do it. All I know is how I feel when I’m around it now and how I feel when I try to think about a future life where it is something that occurs around me on a fairly regular basis. I should trust him that he’s not going to whip out a big joint in front of the kids.I should trust that he would only smoke “when appropriate”.And needless to say, the marijuana issue has become a real sticking point.At first, I was adament that he had to quit altogether, but he made it very clear that this was not an option for him.It may seem like an old fashioned thought, but the one you date should be a suitable mate.
He has friends who go and get high in the garage while their kids are in the house playing.
So I did some thinking and came to the conclusion that I could repress my natural “flight or fight” response in certain situations where it was present.
For example, if the two of us were to go to a New Year’s Eve party, I would not make a big deal about him smoking with his friends and just suck it up and deal with it.
I don’t want to come home from the grocery store to a high husband.
I don’t want to spend my time watching him get stoned.
He describes it as something “ceremonial” and something that connects him to his friends and brothers.