I don’t mean that as an insult either, friends are badass.Ghosting, as you probably know, is the wholly unpleasant phenomenon when someone you are dating decides to simply fade away into the ether rather than have an upfront, honest, adult conversation about why he or she no longer wants to keep seeing you.But if, in general, they're flaky or unresponsive towards you and you notice they've abandoned online dating, it might mean they're trying to literally disappear on you.If you can't reach them post-ghost via text or Ok Cupid, it's much easier for them to avoid your questions.Despite the fact that there are many other, better ways to break up with someone, it seems that people can't seem to retire the pesky habit of ghosting.If you're a newcomer to the ghosting scene, I would first like to offer my condolences.If every time you hang out, he or she suddenly has a reason to disappear even though you've only had one drink, there's a chance that they're mentally preparing to hit the road.
" It's not hard to make plans, and even if you're busy, you should be able to find some time that works for both of you.There's nothing fun about waiting to see if someone reaches out to you, only to realize after a couple days that it seems unlikely, so you just give in and text first again, against your better judgment.If you see a pattern and truly feel in your gut that they're uninterested, beware that this person could easily just cut off all contact with no notice. Having incorrect people tell you not to text him first after you just hung out. Which kinda sucks for the lazy daters among us, not to mention that the veg-out brand of dating is way less pressure. Casual date-sleeping doesn't even count as real sleeping. Perpetually meeting up with strangers to see if there's potential to love each other? RELATED: 11 Signs You're Casually Dating the Right Guy The 33 Best Things About Being Single 20 Guys to Avoid in Your 20s Follow Anna on Twitter. And if you text him first, you wind up staring at your phone willing him to text you back. Or is it simply lying in a gridlocked position with someone whose middle name you don't know? This summer we can have a cookout— I mean I can have a cookout, whether you're there or not is whatever, I'm not looking for a commitment, I'm ~*~*s OOOO~*~ not one of 10. Staying in is too intimate for you guys — there always has to be some kind of plan, even if it's just going to a bar or a restaurant. Or wear the cute, less-comfortable pajamas that you reserve for these occasions. You inevitably lose sleep because you're not used to sharing a bed with this person. Fielding the potential for utter and complete awkwardness on a regular basis.